logically i understand there is no connection between intelligence and public speaking skills. since when however, did logic have to do with anything? i HATE the fact that i cannot speak. i don't know why my brain simply shuts down in those situations. take last night's debate for instance. i couldn't even coherently read the words on the paper in front of me. to make things worse, when the floor was opened for questions, all i could do was stare blankly. what? american foreign policy? what would that be? jee-ez.
my classmates (and professors) must think i am a total idiot. nowadays i am embarassed to go to class. paranoia is starting to kick in, and i imagine that everyone is smirking at me. that this is why i have no friends.
this is all insane. i am not 18 anymore. i HAVE to get over this. how though?
4 comments:
Deep Breath.
You're definitely not dumb, and you're probably a better public speaker then you think you are.
Could I ask how much pre-speaking preparation you do? How often, if at all, do you rehearse what you're going to say, think through potential questions and plan answers for them?
I find that, even though I really enjoy public speaking, I absolutely would not be able to do it without going through those intermediate steps. Perhaps they'll be off some use to you.
People say that some are born public-speakers. However, i don't believe that.
Public speaking can be trained and developed.
All you got to do is role-play with yourself a thousand times before and then it'll be fine, cuz even if you're scared. you've done it so many times.
i'm a really shy person and i hate speaking in public, but i know i still got to have the skills and train myself
because one day what if i gotta defend women's rights and no one stands up to speak. then
Meryam , the world will be relying on you !
Just imagine this critical scenario and practice now for the future.
Be prepared!
P.s. we'll chat more next time i see you
You can do it , i know you can!
btw- im your friend!`~
moh and zaineb, you both mentioned preparation -i have to admit i rarely prepare, for the simple reason that that would freak me out; being in denial is much better for my blood pressure. even if it does nothing for my speaking. sigh. but yes, preparation seems a sensible place to start..
meryam, don't be silly - what happened to you in those debates is so normal that if you managed to live your life without experiencing such a situation at least once, i would definitely worry about you. and yes, it all comes with experience. at least you did not forget simple words (something that happened to me 2 years ago when i was being interviewed for one of the programmes ON TV!!!)
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